SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Spouses argue all the time and it’s a natural thing, there will always be differences and disagreements but there are times when it reaches a point where everything is starting to fall apart. This often leads to devastating breakups; but it doesn’t always have to end that way.

It may be easier said than done but it’s always important to have a little faith and ask these questions: have you really done enough to save the relationship? Have you exhausted every possible option to say that it’s over? Is it really over?

If you’re about to give up on your relationship, maybe you should read this piece first and see if whatever you have with your significant other is still worth saving.

Here are ways to save your struggling relationship and keep the love alive.

1. Admit that mistakes have been made.

This is probably the hardest yet the most important part of saving a relationship. Admitting that one or even both of you have failed to do your part is not easy. In moments like this one, people tend to become stubborn and quickly activate their defense mechanism in order to avoid getting all the blame. Try to work together and start from there.

2. Learn to negotiate and reach a compromise.

Most of the reasons why people breakup can actually be remedied and solved through negotiation. Sure, this is not a business relationship but romantic relationships follow the same structure of what makes any good partnership last – regular communication and openness to compromise. Talk about what needs to be done, what you can do to accomplish them, and what you should stop doing.

3. Establish an honesty point and talk about what’s bothering you.

Again, communication is important. But honest communication is more important and can dramatically mend an almost-breaking bond between two people. Being honest with each other and letting them know how you truly feel can be liberating and at the same time, it will let you both know what went wrong and what you can do to fix it.

4. Remind yourself of the things that made you love your partner.

Memories can bring the past back to life – and it can help you remember the things and emotions that seem to fade over time. Most of the time, couples become too busy and preoccupied with other things in life and forget the ones that matter. Remembering helps you realize that there was once a time when you were so happy and in love with that person; and the good thing is, you can bring that day back again.

5. Spend a relaxing time together.

Sometimes, you only need to stay away from the noise of daily life and just be together in a quiet place. The chaos of the big city might be making your head spin, or the stress of your job could make you feel that everything is wrong in your life. Relax, reboot, and do it with the person you love.

6. Take a break from the routines of your relationship.

What if you just need a break from everything? It’s a waste to end something so beautiful just because you were angry or tired from the routines of daily life. However, there are times when the demands of the relationship itself makes you feel exhausted. It’s normal but it doesn’t mean that it will be like that forever.

7. Don’t try to change people according to what you think is best.

You don’t decide what your partner should be or how they should act. All you can do is to guide them so that they won’t do things that could hurt themselves. It’s one of the most ruining part of every relationship when one person tries to control the other and aside from breaking their confidence apart, you are actually teaching your significant other to be ashamed and hate their true self. It’s unfair, don’t you think?

8. Respect your differences.

In relation to the section above, you have to respect your differences because you are two different people. No matter how perfectly matched you are in the zodiac sign department or if you think your soulmates, there will always be differences because you both have gone through a lot of things as well and experiences that shaped each of you as a person.

9. Stop hurting each other.

Arguments are normal and we sometimes say and do things that could hurt the other. Sometimes, when couples fight, they do and say hurtful things just to let it all out. Words can be wounding and sometimes it can cause permanent emotional trauma. If you think you cannot control your emotions during an argument, it’s not a good idea to talk. Find a way to release the negativity that you feel but not towards your partner.

10. Don’t let them feel that you’ve given up.

Have a little faith in every piece of what makes your relationship whole. Don’t give up on what you have too easily and learn to fight for it no matter how hurt or heartbroken you are. It’s okay to admit that you feel hopeless but never say that it’s over until it is really over. If your significant other feels that you’re not doing your part to fix it, then it could lead to a final and ultimate goodbye.

11. Ask the questions that you’ve never asked before.

When your relationship is at stake, learn to ask the right and most important questions. What should you do to fix it? What went wrong? Whatever happened to your promises of loving each other no matter what? What else can you do to save what you have?

12. Open your heart and forgive more.

This can be the hardest thing to do. Forgiving the person who have hurt you, the very person who promised to take care of you and to make you the happiest soul alive, can be the greatest sacrifice that you’ll ever offer to someone. However, this does not mean that you have to embrace martyrdom, to forget and forgive. It’s important to know your limits and your worth. Ask yourself these questions: is this person worth my forgiveness? Is this worth another chance? I will tell you, your partner is worth your forgiveness. All the memories built together is worth saving.

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HOW TO KNOW IF SHE LOVES YOU

HOW TO KNOW IF SHE LOVES YOU

Women are unpredictable beings. They are emotional and they change their minds easily. They can be impulsive and surprising. They can easily fall in love, and later on have a change of heart. This is one of the causes of men’s heartbreaks.

However, when a woman matures and experiences true love, she can be so selfless that she becomes so vulnerable. She would not let emotions sway her from side to side. She will be faithful to you.

How will you find out if your fiancée or partner really loves you? How do you know if what she has for you is real love? Here are some signs to find the truth out.

1. She takes care of you like a mom.

You would know how much your fiancée or partner loves you based on how she takes care of you. Her mother instinct makes her do everything to ensure you do not get sick and you stay well. She serves you as much as she can to accomplish this. She cooks and brings you food, reminds you to take vitamins, and scolds you when you stay up too late because of online games.

2. She is willing to sacrifice for you.

Your fiancée or partner can sacrifice her own needs to help you. I know some girlfriends who would do the assignments or projects of their boyfriend even when they have their own works to do.

3. She is kind and patient no matter how annoying you are.

No matter how much headaches you give her, she could not keep herself from being kind to you. Even if she gets mad at you for being stubborn, at the end of the day she would soften up to ask how you have been. She is always patient with you, because she chooses to see your good side.

4. She forgives you many times.

No matter how many times you have hurt or disappointed her, she always forgives you. She chooses to forget your failures and gives you a lot of second chances. Her love is unconditional, so she does not focus on your mistakes and flaws.

5. She does not tolerate the bad things you do.

In spite of her love, she would never tolerate your negative behaviors like skipping classes or drinking too much. It does not matter to her if you are not pleased with her disapproval. What is important to her is you get rid of actions or things that can harm you. She wants you to be a good and upright person, because she wants to help you have a bright future.

6. She pushes you to be a better person.

Just like a mother, your fiancée or partner wants to help you be a better version of yourself. She wants you to be a responsible citizen, so that you can live a peaceful life. This is the reason why she does not tolerate your negative habits.

7. She encourages and supports you in reaching your dreams.

Your fiancée or partner wants you to reach your dreams, because she wants you to be happy. She wants you to be fulfilled and successful as a person. For this reason, she will always encourage you to pursue your goals, especially during times when you are frustrated with yourself. She will do her best to help and support you all the way.

8. She stays with you in your darkest times.

During discouraging times, your fiancée or partner is always there to boost your self-esteem. She believes that you are a great person and you have a lot of capabilities. She will not leave you just because you are a mess. She will help you see your worth again and get back to your feet. She does not leave because her love for you is through thick and thin.

9. She introduces you to her family and friends.

Just like with you guys, you know your fiancée or partner is serious with you when she lets you meet her other loved ones—her family and friends. She proudly presents you to them because she wants them to know that you are the man, she desires to spend the rest of her life with.

10. She does things to get closer to your loved ones.

She does not only introduce you to her family and friends. She also eagerly connects to yours. She loves the people who are dear to you. For this reason, she will do her best to get close to them, so that they will accept her completely as part of your life. She wants to serve and please them, because for her it is like doing those to you as well.

11. She will not take advantage of you.

A woman who truly loves would not only be sweet and nice to her man whenever she needs something from him. If your fiancée or partner loves you, she would be consistent in how she treats you, even when you are not doing anything for her. Also, as much as possible, she would not ask anything from you. She does not like it when you spend too much for her or you sacrifice your own schedules to help her with her needs. Just like how you do not want her sacrificing for you, she feels the same towards you.

12. She does not take you for granted.

Moreover, your fiancée or partner can make you feel her true love by appreciating everything you do for her. She does not forget to thank you even for small things. She is sensitive to your needs and feelings, so she does not waste your efforts. In addition, she would not embarrass you in front of her friends or anyone else, even if you have done something foolish.

You can surely feel it a woman who loves you will do everything to care for her man. Being a guy who knows his fiancée or partner, for sure you can feel how she truly feels for you. It is only you who can tell if your partner is serious in the love, she shows you. If you can feel her sincerity in everything, she does for you then there is a big possibility that what she has for you is true love.

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KEYS TO DECODING THE RIGHT MAN

KEYS TO DECODING THE RIGHT MAN

Your faithfulness to God will cause God to remember you in waiting for that guy whom the heaven has ordained for you. But how do you know the one whom God has for you? Are there divine clues that guide women in identifying the right man for them?

Marrying the wrong partner in your relationship is not something to be taken lightly. It can break your heart, and worse, it can ruin your life, your future and even the people who are relying on you. Marrying the wrong person is marrying your enemy, which can be a worst nightmare you will wish you never woke up from.

 

Love is a journey. And just like any other journeys, you have to choose the right path to achieve happiness and success, not only for yourself and the one you love, but also for the relationship you and your partner have. Choosing the wrong person changes the course of the journey entirely.

Here are Biblical signs to channel and prepare you for the journey ahead.

He speaks the words of God.
“For he whom God hath sent speaketh the words of God: for God giveth not the Spirit by measure unto him.” – John 3:34

The man that comes from God speaks the words of God. Hence, listen carefully to his words. Are his words or messages in agreement to what God teaches in the Bible? Does he speak wisdom or foolishness? Of course you wouldn’t know it if you don’t know God’s words in the first place. Thus, arm yourself by studying the word of God.

Bear in mind the words of God in the Bible are like lyrics in a song. When you become conversant with its harmony, you will know when someone sings off key.

We know that God speaks about love, kindness, compassion, patience and truthfulness. So if a man is speaking of the opposite, then obviously he is not from Him.

He practices what he speaks.
“My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.” – 1 John 3:18

 

Words are useless without actions. So even though a man speaks the words of God, if he doesn’t practice them, you can conclude that he’s only pretending and not really the man sent to you by the Heavens. The man should be able to walk his talk, not just talk.

He doesn’t lie.
 “Lying lips are abomination to the Lord: but they that deal truly are his delight.” – Proverbs 12:22

Of course God will not send you someone who is a liar. God detests lying, right? All liars are children of the devil. You cannot be faithful to God and he gives you a liar.

He doesn’t corrupt your good character.
“Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.” –  1 Corinthians 15:33

God will not send you a man who will destroy your good habits, attitude and whole character. Hence, ask yourself, does he inspire you to grow as a better person or does he influence you to do bad things? When someone is in your life but devalues you or makes you a negative, you don’t permission just run without looking behind.

He honors and respects you.
“Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king.” –1 Peter 2:17

Your man should know how to respect you as a woman and as person. He should honour you rather than put you in shame. A man that does not honour/ respect you from the beginning will not do same after you are married.

He is just and merciful.
“He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?” – Micah 6:8

God encourages us to show justice and mercy. Hence, expect that the person He will send to you will show the same, not the other way around. Sister you are not an object of pity, don’t marry out of pity. The man for you must a bowel of mercy like God our father. When a man has a bowel of mercy tolerance is a key attributes he exibit.

He makes sacrifices.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

The verse above tells that God made a great sacrifice to show His love to us. If a man truly loves you, he will also make sacrifices for you. It may not be a divine sacrifice like what God did, but it can be some sacrifices to save you or your relationship, like sacrificing his own ambition, material possessions and other important stuff. Avoid any man that is interested in your pay check. If he cannot go an extra mile now when you get married he will never.

He forgives you.
“Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.” – Colossians 3:13

Does he forgive you when you make mistakes or does he hold grudges in his heart? This is a question you should find an answer to know if he is from God or not. Such an unforgiving fellow will keep bagagges that will affect the your marital journey.

He gives you grace.
“But unto every one of us is given grace according to the measure of the gift of Christ.” – Ephesians 4:7

Love must be unconditional remember. Grace is a gift given to you even if you don’t deserve it. It’s different from a blessing since you will only receive blessing if you work for it. You will realize that a man is from God if despite of your shortcomings, he’s still kind and generous to you. Even if you feel like you don’t deserve his love, he still loves you.

Use the above as a guide to decode the right man for you. In additional to the above he must explicitly manifest the fruits of the spirit. The right man for you may not be perfect and get all of the above, but as long as he is humble, God-fearing and honest enough to admit his shortcomings and he is patient and determined to grow as a person, you know there is hope. Besides, “love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things” – 1 Corinthians 13:7.

Finally, also remember that although God will send the right man for you, you may still lose him if you will reject him or do nothing. Therefore, don’t just spend your life waiting for the man whom God has for you but you should also strive to be the woman whom God has for him. Equip yourself to be a Proverb 31 woman.

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