Intimacy is the act of sexual action between married couple’s. This is very vital in keeping the marriage bed pure and sane.
Many may not agree with me, but majority of the problems that many are encountering emanates from whom they have slept with. Many are alive but cannot amount to their God given glory because of this. Many are married but they have become shaft even before they got married.
The absence of intimacy in marriage is as a result of one hurt or the other. Many are living like strangers because the spices of intimacy is dead. It needs to be restored.
HOW TO RESTORE?
- Start by identifying what brought about the absence of intimacy in the first place. You need to walk back and see the level of hurt you have caused. You must be prepared to speak about your hurt with your spouse.
“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.” Mathew 5:23-24
Apologies to your spouse by taking responsibility not blame shifting. Apology opens the way for reconciliation and healing very fast.
“Confess your faults to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed.” James 5:16
- Forgiveness is one of the greatest forces for healing in a marriage. You must understand that forgiveness is not a feeling is a choice you must make. To properly forgive you must know what forgiveness is not and what forgiveness is.
Forgiveness is not.
- Is not waiting for your spouse to change before you forgive them
- Is not forgetting the hurt never happened
- Is not pretending it never matters
- Is not thinking that time alone will heal the hurt.
- Facing the wrong done to you by your spouse together.
- Is recognizing the emotion inside.
- Is choosing not to hold it against your spouse
- Is releasing your spouse to God’s hands.
“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Colossians 3:13
When you go through this process of restoring intimacy in your marriage, with the key point of forgiveness you must know that forgiveness is a process. It deals with anger. You the forgiving ultimately benefits more from giving than the person you are forgiving. You must let go so that your buried anger does not lead to hate.
These process is not complete without some serious prayers. You need your hands to be taught to war to heal in the process. For more join my coaching by clicking on the link https://singlesandmarriedwithpastorv.com/sign-up/